1. Social Skills: Seven Things Everyone Should Know
  2. The 30 most important things about effective communication everyone must know
  3. Nine Things You Should Know About Interpersonal Skills
  4. How To Overcome Your Shyness, The Ultimate Guide
  5. A Simple Guide To Introverts
  6. How You Can Overcome Social Anxiety
  7. 25+ Effective Networking Tactics To Improve Your Networking Skills
  8. How To Master The Basic Meet And Greet
  9. Master The Power Pose In Two Minutes
  10. The 20 All-Time Best Pieces Of Relationship Advice Ever
  11. How To Build Great Professional Relationships
  12. 30+ Techniques About Killing It With Public Speaking
  13. How To Give Impromptu Speeches
  14. How To Be A Smart/Witty Talker
  15. How To Speak And Influence People Like Barack Obama
  16. The 20 Best Tips For Speaking Better
  17. 100+ Useful Techniques For Great Small Talk
  18. Question Skills: How We Can Be Great At Asking Questions
  19. How To Give Feedback
  20. Active Listening Skills (How To Be A Great Listener)
  21. Presentation Skills: How To Give Great Presentations
  22. Rhetoric: Using Language Better To Communicate Effectively And Persuasively
  23. How To Be Assertive
  24. A Simple Guide To Understanding Body Language
  25. 15+ Tricks That Will Help You Catch People Lying
  26. 11 Really Useful NLP Techniques
  27. A Simple Guide To Emotional Intelligence
  28. Empathy
  29. How To Be Charismatic
  30. How To Develop Presence
  31. How To Be Charming, Likeable, And Interesting
  32. Personality Development: How You Can Improve Your Personality
  33. 20+ Tips On Handling Difficult People
  34. How To Run And Participate In Effective Meetings
  35. Teamwork Skills: How To Work In A Team Effectively
  36. How To Make (And Refute) Arguments
  37. How To Win An Argument
  38. How To Criticize
  39. Seven Simple Ways To Give Praise
  40. How To Complain
  41. Culture Smarts: Taking In Cultural Cues From Across The World
  42. How To (Really) Control Your Emotions
  43. Basics Of Phone Etiquette
  44. A Simple Guide To Non-Verbal Communication
  45. How to change people's minds: Use this 350-year old trick, now backed up by psychologists
  46. Infographic: Body Language Cues and Spotting Lies

Personality Development: How You Can Improve Your Personality

Try to be better than yourself.

- William Faulkner


I want freedom for the full expression of my personality.

- Mahatma Gandhi


To be oneself, simply oneself, is so amazing and utterly unique an experience that it's hard to convince oneself so singular a thing happens to everybody.

- Simone de Beauvoir, Prime of Life


Tell me what you pay attention to and I will tell you who you are.

- José Ortega y Gasset


Personality is an unbroken series of successful gestures.

- F. Scott Fitzgerald, The Great Gatsby


I use bits and pieces of others personalities to form my own.

- Kurt Cobain


The largest part of what we call 'personality' is determined by how we've opted to defend ourselves against anxiety and sadness.

- Alain de Botton



1. Be yourself: The best tip for improving your personality is to be yourself, just be your normal (hopefully non-offensive/non-irritating) self. Don't try to someone you are not.


You want to show people you are James Bond, but that fantasy is impossible to carry out in real life. At the very least, copy some good habits of James Bond - Get into fitness, improve your observation skills (like a spy), be better with small talk at parties etc.

You won't be able to take the pretense far enough, and will end up pissing off more people.


2. Follow the golden rule: Treat people as you would like them to treat you. With respect.


3. Find ways to be yourself by getting some good habits: Read ('I like reading non-fiction'). Get a hobby you like ('I like to play piano'). Just don't have bad habits. If you can't help it, then try not to get your bad habits piss off other people - e.g. smoking in a group of non-smokers.


You may also try out various habits before you will find you like some particular stuff.


Just remember: There is no one way to be a good or bad person.


4. A sense of humor helps: But not everyone among us can laugh at all things, and more importantly, laugh at yourself. At least, don't take things too personally. Be cool.


5. You can only have a better personality when you have decided to change how you are presently.


This is very important. You have to know how you are to other people at this moment - for an objective view, ask friends and family.


You should find stuff about yourself that people are content with. You have to be not content about those things as well. This is the first step towards a better personality.


6. T-shaped people are more attractive: T-shaped are people who are good at some work skills, but also have an interest in other fields - arts, history etc. They bring a wholesome approach to life.


Read books, anything you find. Just read. Know some art. Travel. Know more about people other than yourself.


7. Improve your communication/people skills: Smile more.


Be interested in other people (if you can at least get this one right, your personality is gold - This is the secret of all so-called 'magnetic' personalities - they make others feel important).


Show empathy by understanding things from their point of view.


Find easy rapport with other people with finding a common ground of shared interest in things - sports, movies, books etc (but stay away from normally divisive things such as religion or politics).


Appear calm and confident. Believe in yourself and project assertiveness (you know your rights).


Don't say anything unless your words can improve the conversation (and someone asks you to contribute, preferably).


Understand 'give and take' is the norm of the social world. Be helpful.


Be a good listener. Listen actively and show your understanding - nod often, repeat last words etc.


Dress clean.


Use positive body language - eye contact, touch (shoulder, hand shakes) etc.


And please be gentle, polite and courteous, people. Everyone is just winging through their life. Once a while, we will like for others to be nice to us.


8. Someone said, 'we are the sum of the 5 people we interact with most.'

Expand your circle.


9. Start contributing to society.

Teach/share whatever you know or learn.


10. Stop thinking about what people will say about you.


Have faith in your actions, habits and thoughts.


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